Fatherless

Death, deadbeat, prison, ashamed, these are some of the terms used to describe the men who is unable or unwilling to care for their children. For whatever reason, mothers are sometimes left alone to heed for their offspring as best as they can, but when the kids go out into the world and see families which they’ve never been apart of, tolling effects can be observed. Adolescents brought up with no father figure or male role model tend to have a more troubled life. They feel alone and unloved as they see the perfect family on television or out in public. Single mothers put blood, sweat, and tears into the welfare of their children making sure that they live as normal of a life as possible, but unfortunately their efforts sometimes aren’t enough. These negative effects can torment children immediately or have long term upshots that are unhealthy and in some cases deadly. As a young boy, I asked my mother many times where my father was. She used to tell me that he went away for a while and maybe he would come back on day; but when she was beat down from rough days at work and didn’t want to be bothered, she didn’t know where he was and didn’t care. The single mothers are almost equally affected with the responsibilities of raising a child or children alone with no mutual support. The struggle is overwhelming and can cause mental trauma in children as well as mothers. Today’s children are tomorrow’s future, and they must be treated with care in order to make something good out of themselves.
One of the areas where children with absent fathers are most affected is school and education. According to fathers.com, children that come from one-parent homes are twice as likely as children coming from two-parent home to drop out of school. In conducted surveys, students coming from one-parent homes have lower grade point averages, lower attendance records, and lower college aspirations; which means that there is a negative correlation between the absence of an influential male figure and motivation to surpass expectations in school. I have three cousins that are brothers on my dad’s side of the family; all three of the boys have different fathers and have never met them. They have had no one to edify them the things that only a man can teach to young men which as mislead them in the wrong direction. So far, two of them have yet to make it past the 11th grade and they are now twenty years old. This example satisfies G.D. Sandefur’s observation that students with single parents are less likely to even graduate from high school. Debra Dawson also states that kids living with a “never-married mother” are far more likely than students living with both biological parents to be suspended or even expelled from school for whatever reason. In addition, children without fathers are more prone to have friends that are living the same life that they are and believe that school is unimportant causing manner problems. There is only so much structure and order a woman can make with children because kids feel a sense of superiority and are somewhat fearful of males, this is why when mothers tell their children, “I’m gonna tell your daddy!” they fix their act because of the energy they feel when around their father. This feeling also makes them behave and do well in school because they know the consequences that have been installed by the dominant male in the household.
All I’m trying to say is that children, especially young boys, need fathers in their lives to help grow and mature the way they are supposed to be. Maybe the world wouldn’t be as bad as it is if we had males to keep them in check.